Iremember years ago, before I opened a florist, I attended a funeral for a gentlemen I had worked with for many years. I knew how well Don was loved, admired and adored by many friends and family. I went into the funeral home, and I was horrified. There were only a few flowers, no casket spray, basically a empty room. My first thought was "Why?" Don was well loved and liked, thought highly of, where were the rest of the flowers? I just stood, not knowing what to say, a mutual friend came over and said "Isn't this sad? There aren't many flowers." The room was so stark and empty, and most of all, it was lonely. What a statement of Don's life, our last moment to rejoice and honor his memory, instead, emptiness.
Years later, my beloved Aunt Carolyn passed away. When my Mom and Aunt Peggy first saw my Aunt's casket in the room at the funeral home, there were no flowers, later when they returned, and the room was filled with flowers, they broke down. They could "see" how much their their sister had been loved, and important she was to people.
Can you think of a wedding without flowers? Of course not, so why should there be no flowers at a funeral? Flowers satsify certain needs, they really do make people feel better. There are many parts of a funeral that are distressing and stressful, but when you see the flowers, the instant gratification that their loved ones made a difference in this world is worth everything.In a time of grief, family and friends need a diversion from just looking at the person lying in that casket. Flowers are there to offer comfort, and at a time that is very hard to come up with the right words, they offer conversation.
It is noble to give to charities, and to churches, but family and friends need to have the instant knowledge that their loved ones made a difference in this world. Yes, the family might get a postcard in the mail two months down the road stating " a memorial of $ was given in your Aunt's name....", but this will not convey, at the most pivotal time of grieving, what a family so desperately needs, flowers that are touched, smelled, and seen and offer instant peace.



